Safety planning

When living in an abusive relationship, your safety should always come first.

A safety plan is: a personalised, practical plan that helps you stay safe while in the relationship

Recognise the Risks

The first step in creating a safety plan is understanding the potential risks you face. Abuse can escalate quickly, especially when an abuser feels they are losing control. Consider the times and situations when you feel most at risk, such as during arguments, when alcohol or drugs are involved, or when the abuser feels stressed.

Safe Spaces in Your Home

Identify safe areas in your home where you can go if you feel threatened. Choose spaces with an exit route and avoid areas like the kitchen or bathroom where potential weapons may be present.

Pack an Emergency Bag

Prepare a bag with essentials in case you need to leave in a hurry.

Briefly, try to include items like:

• Identification
• Bank cards
• Cash
• Keys
• Medication
• A change of clothes
• Important documents (e.g., birth certificates)
• Keep this bag in a safe, accessible place or with someone you trust.

Develop a Communication Plan

Share your safety plan with a trusted friend, family member and any professional that is helping you. For friends or family, agree on a code word or phrase to signal that you’re in danger.

Keep a list of emergency contacts stored securely on your phone, written down on paper or memorised.

For example: